His Dogness

My father, Ralph Underwood, wrote this is a card that he gave to my mother, Dorie Underwood, on Mother’s Day in 1991. He died on Father’s Day that same year.

Dear Dorie,

In a few months, you shall be 62 and have society’s permission to retire from work. You can retire from work, from friendships, from marriage, from organizations. But you can never retire from being a mother. God planned it that way. Only as a mother are you committed for life once the child is born. The child grows in you, comes though and often tries to separate himself completely from you. Hoever, it never really happens.

You have been and continue to be a remarkable mother. You brought forth five children. Each child has gone through the process of cutting the umbilical cord. Yet each child has replaced it with an invisible bond of love, respect, admiration, affection and genuine appreciation. I do not know any other woman and mother who can surpass you in the healthy relationship you have with your five.

Through the years, you always did “what you thought best at the moment,” but you were “firm but fair.” You were consistent and dependable. You were always there when one needed you. I know the five love and respect me. However, I know they love and respect you differently and perhaps even more. For this, I am not jealous nor resentful because you have earned every minute, ounce and measure of it.

If you had not done another thing in life except be a mother, you have fulfilled God’s destiny for you. Yet, in addition to being a successful mother, you have been and are a successful wife, a friend to many, a counselor, a teacher and a preacher. I believe God has said to you, “Since you have done so well as a mother, I shall add to your talents — go be a special counselor and friend to many who have had bad experiences with mothers and families.”

Love,
R.